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14 Ways To Gain Confidence When You're At A New Job And An Introvert

Posted By Julie McReynolds, Thursday, March 15, 2018
Updated: Monday, March 5, 2018

14 Ways To Gain Confidence When You're At A New Job And An Introvert

By Ellie Nieves

If you are an introvert, there are many aspects of life that can feel extra challenging - like gaining and communicating self-confidence at a new job. But, it doesn’t have to be. It is completely possible for an introvert to be confident and build good positive relationships with people over time. Here’s how:  

1. Know that you are wired to lead: Several years ago,, conducted a survey and learned that 65% of 1,542 senior managers believed that introversion was an impediment to getting ahead in the workplace. The belief is that managers tend to see extroverted employees who tend to be more talkative, energetic and often popular as leadership material.

But, according to Professor Adam Grant from the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School of Business introverts can be better leaders. That’s because introverts are in tune with their likes and dislikes. They know what works best for them and they use this information to create work environments that optimize their effectiveness. Maximum effectiveness is key to career success. If you are an introvert – let that sink in. You are wired to lead. Own it! 

2. Get charged before you engage: The main difference between introverts and extroverts is where they get their energy. Extroverts get their energy from engaging with other people – the more people they engage with the more charged up they get. On the other hand, introverts get their energy from being alone. Much like a cell phone battery, their energy gets depleted with extensive social interaction. Depending on their capacity, they will need to retreat from social interaction to recharge before they are comfortable enough to re-engage with other.

If you are an introvert, make sure that you find strategic times during your day to grab some alone time to re-charge. Consider scheduling an hour of alone time before large staff meetings or networking events. When you are charged and re-energized you more easily engage with others. This allows you to communicate confidence more easily with your new co-workers. 

3. Leverage one-on-one interactions: Introverts are often more comfortable when they connect with others one-on-one. If you’re an introvert, use this to your advantage. Set up lunch dates with each of the members of your team and with colleagues from other departments. Use these opportunities to get to know them on a more personal basis as well as to ask for success tips for your new role. The bottom line is when you’re in one-on-one settings you’re more comfortable and this will go a long way in communicating confidence at your new job.  

4. Dress for success: Do you know that awesome feeling you get when you have a new outfit that looks great on you? There’s nothing like it. There is no doubt that when we look and feel our best, we communicate confidence. So always strive to look your best. It will put a pep in your step that will radiate self-confidence at your new job.

5. Speak with a period at the end: In addition to your physical appearance, how you speak will make an impression at your new job. So, if you’re an introvert who wants to communicate confidence at work, use language that projects that you are a confident leader.

Also, be mindful that the volume and tone of your voice are instrumental in conveying confidence and leadership. Don’t sound tentative when you speak. Instead, speak with a period at the end. In other words, affirmatively and with authority. You should also limit your use of phrases like “I think” and “I feel.” If you’re in a meeting where others are dominating the discussion, don't always wait for everyone to finish speaking before you chime in; you may never get the opportunity. Be ready to politely, but firmly Interject. 

6. Watch your body language: Your body language speaks loud and clear long before you open your mouth to say a word. The way you carry yourself sends strong messages about who you are and how you feel about yourself. Your presence and demeanor communicate your level of self-confidence.

So, watch your body language and adjust as needed in order to communicate self-confidence. You can start to communicate self-confidence by watching your posture: hold your chin up, shoulders back, feet 12 inches apart with your weight evenly distributed on both feet. If you do this regularly, you will begin to feel relaxed and comfortable in your own skin; owning who you are. As you communicate self-confidence with your body language, others at your new job will begin to view you as a leader. 

7. Be engaging: Whether you’re at a meeting or at a social event your interactions with colleagues and key influencers will establish a foundation for your future success in your new role. Make it a point to be engaging and genuinely interested in the person you are talking to. You don’t need to be an extrovert to be engaging.  Dale Carnegie, a master at building relationships, said it best when he wrote the “6 ways to make people like you” in his book How to Win Friends and Influence People

  • Become genuinely interested in other people 
  • Smile 
  • Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language 
  • Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves 
  • Talk in the terms of the other person’s interest 
  • Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely 

8. Speak up: As an introvert, you are likely not prone to speaking just for the sake of speaking. This is a good thing. But, you should be prepared to speak when it matters. As the new employee on the block, always prepare before meetings. Review the agenda and consider how you will substantively contribute to the discussion. Perhaps you will make recommendations to a project or ask questions that will clarify a point.

You may even affirm someone else’s point of view or offer a different view point. Whatever your contribution is, be thoughtful about what you say and how you say it. In addition, understand that using too many words can kill the effectiveness of what you’re communicating. Use fewer words and get to the point. Remember, every word you speak will help to build your credibility before your new peers. 

9. Talk about your accomplishments: Many introverts miss out on leadership opportunities because they are uncomfortable with self-promotion. They think that self-promotion is bragging. But self-promoting and bragging are two different things. Bragging is ego driven; self-promotion is accomplishment driven. Find and/or create opportunities where you can update key stakeholders about your contribution to successful projects at your new job. Those early wins feed your confidence for the next win.

For example, speak about your accomplishments during your performance evaluation with your manager or at a status update meeting. You may even find an opportunity to share in a memo that is widely distributed throughout your organization. 

10. Public speaking: While it sounds counterintuitive, public speaking is an excellent way to build confidence when you are an introvert. Find opportunities at your new job to speak at meetings, workshops, seminars, and conferences. In addition to helping you build confidence, public speaking is an important leadership skill to develop. You can join a local Toastmasters International group or work with a coach who will be able to provide you with personal individualized attention. 

11. Stay positive: New jobs come with new people, a new company culture and often new challenges. That’s why starting a new job can be emotionally draining for an introvert. This can ultimately impact your level of confidence. To counteract this, train yourself to see the glass as half full rather than half empty when you encounter challenges at your new job. When you find your thoughts going in a negative direction, challenge yourself to focus on the positive side of things.

Ask yourself questions like: What can I do to improve this situation? What lessons have I learned that will help me be successful in the future? How can this situation help me to help others? In addition to asking yourself these types of questions, take the time each day to write down the things you are thankful for. For example, you may be thankful for the sunset, the change in seasons, your talents, abilities, friends, etc. These exercises will help you to develop an attitude of gratitude and will lay the foundation for an uplifted spirit, a positive perspective and a higher level of confidence. 

12. Develop a growth plan: In this day and age, it is increasingly more important that you be strategic about your leadership path. Therefore, the earlier you do this at your new job, the better. Developing a plan and a timeframe for where you want to go and how you plan to get there. Begin by doing research. Become a student of your industry and your new organization. Become familiar with trends and organizational changes. Enlist the help and advice of mentors to help pave the way. This kind of research and planning will help you to make wiser decisions about leadership opportunities that may become available to you in the future. A growth plan will fuel you with a sense of purpose and confidence at your new job. 

13. Volunteer for "stretch" assignments: As a new employee and an introvert, a great way to gain confidence at a new job is to volunteer for a stretch assignment. So, don't wait to be selected for a special project; volunteer to participate in one. Speak to your manager about your goals and how you believe you can make a meaningful contribution. When an opportunity pops up that will highlight your skills and capabilities, volunteer for it.

But, don't just volunteer for projects that will come naturally to you. Look for opportunities that will stretch you and help you learn new skills that will help you build your confidence. Be aware, nonetheless, that every new opportunity is accompanied by risk. But, it's a risk worth taking if you are ready for the challenge. 

14. Celebrate your victories: Every victory you have at your new job will empower you and make you more confident. Relish those moments and celebrate your victories.


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Posted By Julie McReynolds, Thursday, March 8, 2018
Updated: Monday, March 5, 2018

Why You Should Dress Well Even When You're Unwell

By Annamarie Houlis

For me, dressing well sometimes means putting on an ironed dress with jewelry and a favorite pair of heels. Other times it means putting on a well-fitted pair of jeans and plunging into the pile of casual sneakers that have somehow made their way into my closet. It usually means unchipped polish on my fingernails that match my toes and brushed hair that I took the time to do. Sometimes it means makeup, and other times it doesn’t. It always means, however, dressing for me and not for anyone else.

Dressing well is subjective, and so there’s no point in dressing for others — I dress well even on days that I don’t leave my apartment, consumed in work because it makes me feel good. And when I feel good, I do good work.

A gamut of research actually suggests that clothing that improves a woman’s confidence can actually benefit her mental and physical health, too. So we might all want to dress well even when we’re feeling unwell. Here’s what it could do for you.

1. Your style innately affects your performance.

Scientists call the phenomenon “enclothed cognition,” which is the effect of clothing on cognitive processes. Adam Hajo and Adam D. Galinsky, professors at the Kellogg School of Management at Northwestern University, explain in their research published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology that enclothed cognition “involves the co-occurrence of two independent factors — the symbolic meaning of the clothes and the physical experience of wearing them.” They asked subjects to perform tests while wearing a doctor’s lab coat, a painter’s coat, and no coat and found that the subjects’ sustained attention increased the most while wearing the doctors’ coats.

This suggests that how you dress could affect how well you perform. “If you associate those clothes with power and confidence, it’s going to have a huge impact,” Galinsky told The Washington Post, noting that one’s perception of power is subjective, so not all clothes will have the same effect on all people.

2. Your style reflects your mood and vice versa.

Your clothing choices can shape your mood. Professor Karen J. Pine, of the University of Hertfordshire, writes in book Mind What You Wear: The Psychology of Fashion, “When we put on a piece of clothing we cannot help but adopt some of the characteristics associated with it, even if we are unaware of it.” For example, when you put on a pair of yoga pants, you may feel more inclined to relax; when you put on a dress or a pantsuit, however, you may feel more prepared to walk into a meeting and give a presentation.

Likewise, the mood you’re already in may shape your clothing choices. Pine also cheekily writes: “Women are more sensitive to different moods than men and in their study, a woman’s mood was more likely to influence her choice of clothing. Perhaps that is why we women need to have more clothes, to match the multitude of moods to which we are subject? Or, if not, it seems a rather good excuse!”

3. Your style can improve your overall health.

A clothing line called INGA Wellbeing creates fashion-conscious clothing for medical patients, and some of the pieces in the line even boast openings to accommodate medical devices like IVs, drains, and monitors. The innovative garments intend to help patients regain their independence by empowering them to dress, move about and socialize, which in turn should promote a speedier recovery. “What we wear during medical treatment has a profound effect on how much we want to move around, or engage with friends, loved ones, and even our careers,” the website reads. “This, in turn, has a significant impact on our mental and physical wellbeing.”

A nurse-led campaign #endPJparalysis founded by Professor Brian Dolan found supporting data that patients wearing “normal” day clothes in the hospital spent 0.75 fewer days in the hospital than patients who wore gowns or traditional pajamas. This suggests that, if you’re feeling unwell, dressing well might empower you to get up and get going throughout your day and be a more productive worker — this effect on your mental health could more quickly improve your physical health, as it did with the aforementioned patients studied.

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I Stopped Using Exclamation Points In Emails — And Was Totally Surprised By What Happened

Posted By Julie McReynolds, Wednesday, February 28, 2018
Updated: Wednesday, February 7, 2018


I Stopped Using Exclamation Points In Emails — And Was Totally Surprised By What Happened

It sounded like an impossible task: replace my usual “Thanks so much!”, “What a great question!”, and “Have a wonderful weekend!” with punctuation of a less cheery variety. Less sunshine-y and smiling and, “Hey, yes, I am so happy to be doing this job and helping you out—no matter how much you verbally abuse me or how cold you can be or how few exclamation points you use in your emails to me, I am going to stay positive!” Less of that.

I’ve always been an over-exclaimer in writing. In ninth grade, the student teacher in my English class marked my essay down to an A- for “over-exaggerated emotion.” When I stopped by to ask about it, he said it felt like I was yelling at him through the page. It would only take a few years before my attitude towards that conversation turned from low-level shame to “Damn right, I was yelling at you.” Thus began my feminist awakening, but that’s a story for another day.

After a forced hiatus from my favorite punctuation, I embraced it in full post-college. I used it as a sign of my positive attitude, cheerful personality, and willingness to work. It softens the blow of No, Sorry. It amps-up excitement for paperwork. Most of all, perhaps, it lets coworkers, clients, and management know that I am A Very Nice Girl who is Excited About My Job. Many times, this is a lie. In personal emails, such as those to my mother who lives states away, the exclamation point has always been code for, I’m Doing Great, and I Swear I Am Not Seasonally Depressed, Even a Little Bit!

But sometimes I am seasonally depressed, a little bit, and one day this winter, I got tired of using the smiley-emoji-without-a-face. The signifier of my pleasantness. So I stopped, abruptly. I began ending all of my emails with “Thank you.” I embraced “I would be happy to take care of that for you, Janice.” And “I hope you’re staying warm in this cold weather.” I hugged the comma close to me. I embraced the period, ellipses, and dash. I frowned at my computer screen and punched the keys and avoided my favorite one. 

After a few weeks of this, I expected coworkers and bosses to stop by my desk with concern, chilled to the bone by my new online demeanor. I expected curt replies, or overly-flowery ones filled with emojis and the exclamation points I had banned from my own emails. I anticipated confusion over my feelings, intentions, and even my Self—what kind of person doesn’t use keyboard gestures to assure others of her sweetness and likeability?

As it turns out, the response from others was…minimal. One intern asked if I was feeling tired, but that was probably because I was feeling tired. It did cause me to look up and notice all those around me who weren’t using exclamation points in the same madcap way I did (kinda like when you buy a new car and suddenly it feels like EVERYONE has a Mazda3…) and I started to realize that my colleagues’ and friends’ lack of perky punctuation didn’t cause me to judge their character, personality, or career drive.

In fact, selective use of my favorite punctuation led me to feel like the writer was cool, calm, and collected. Confident, even. She wasn’t leaning on the “expoint” as a crutch, didn’t have that fake smile on her face even when delivering hard news, agreeing to a boring project, or accepting difficult criticism. Her emails didn’t need to announce her innermost emotions a la “I promise I’m happy, and by the way, I’ll be using the black & white printer for the next thirty minutes! Thanks for your patience!!” She let her sentences end with an ending, not a cheesy grin. And I was still annoyed at her use of the printer anyway.

From now on, I’m going to try to keep up the period use and downplay the jazzy sentence-enders. I’m going to let my words speak for themselves for awhile. The reader will figure out what I mean. And if I’m not smiling while I send the email, well, maybe it’s okay. Sometimes a lack of enthusiasm is emotionally honest. Sometimes, instead of Cheery Superwoman, I just feel neutral, and that’s okay for my reader—and myself—to acknowledge. :| 


Kaitlyn Duling is an author and poet who is passionate about supporting and uplifting other women. Her work can be found at

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5 Things No One Tells You About Relocating For A Job

Posted By Julie McReynolds, Wednesday, February 21, 2018
Updated: Wednesday, February 7, 2018


5 Things No One Tells You About Relocating For A Job

Congratulations! You've been offered a job with a company in a new city or state — or perhaps even a new country. You've gone through the grueling process of multiple phone screens, traveled for in-person interviews, and you're now considering the offer package.

But before you take the plunge, consider these five things that no one tells you about before relocating for a job. 

1. Think through the cost of living. This seems like an obvious one, but when faced with the decision to move to a new city or state, you will need to scrutinize your cost of living. It does not simply mean being able to pay rent. You'll also need to consider personal expenses like the cost of groceries, fuel costs (if you have a car), auto insurance costs (often variable by city/state), personal grooming services (hair salon, manicure/pedicure costs, waxing, or otherwise.)

Make a list of all of the regular expenses you currently have in your life and run an analysis. Are you at a loss for how to gather service costs? You can access most service providers and their rates through sites like Yelp

2. Get Referrals. Finding reliable doctors, dentists, optometrists or other health professionals can be tricky. While you can find referrals through your medical plan directory, you may have better results asking the specialists you have now. By leveraging the networks of health professionals you already know, you can save the time and avoid headaches. Depending on the size of the city, you may use an app like ZocDoc to find healthcare specialists. It's an easy-to-use app that provides ratings.

3. Consider the Climate. Some states like California and Arizona have consistent and reliable weather. But places like New York or the Pacific Northwest can have severe weather that often makes you feel like you've worn the wrong outfit. Before you decide to move, consider the outdoor activities that you enjoy and determine if you will be able to continue pursuing these hobbies in your new climate.

4. Think about your diet. Are you a vegetarian? Are you a vegan? Or do you eat gluten-free? If you are moving to a remote location that does not support your dietary restrictions, you may struggle. For example, if you're a vegan, and you're considering a job in Memphis, Tennessee, you'll likely need to make time to cook at home more often. If that's the case, be sure to scout out the local grocery stores catering to your plant-based diet. One great resource is

5. Dig into your potential employer's relocation package. If you're not familiar with company relocation services, gather as much information as possible from your potential employer. Many companies offer a full relocation package or partial assistance when you move.

Larger companies like Johnson & Johnson and Microsoft will provide home or apartment finding assistance, provide temporary housing, keep your belongings in storage while you're looking for a place, and assign you a realtor to help you on your search. Best of all, they hire movers who come to your old home and pack up everything for shipment. They also provide an unpacking service once you find the perfect place so you don't have to lift a finger. These two companies also cover costs associated with moving: fees to set up your internet access and other utilities, rental security deposits, or the cost to transfer your driver's license. Since you're relocating for the company, they help you make the transition as smooth as possible so you can focus on getting up to speed at your new job.

Relocating for a job can be stressful, so preparation is key. You don't want to end up in a new city or state and have to drastically change the way you live. After all, you moved for a job but it doesn't mean you have to give up the other parts of your life that are important to you. Think about these tips, do some research, and seek out that new adventure!

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This Is The Best Retirement Strategy, According To Standford

Posted By Julie McReynolds, Wednesday, February 14, 2018
Updated: Wednesday, February 7, 2018


This Is The Best Retirement Strategy, According To Standford

Retirement sounds exciting, but only when it also sounds feasible. And, with the decline of traditional pension plans, IRAs and 401(k) plans are the dominating retirement options for workers in America.

Steve Vernon, consulting research scholar at the Standford Center on Longevity set out to determine how you can be sure that you save enough money to last through your retirement and the best possible ways to withdraw your savings over the years. He collaborated with the Society of Actuaries (SOA) on a research project titled, “How to ‘Pensionize’ Any IRA or 401(k) Plan,” to analyze 292 different retirement income strategies and identify a single, straightforward option for middle-income workers.

Of the 292 strategies, the research team identified what they call the “spend safely in retirement strategy”— there are two components to it.

1. Ty to delay Social Security payments until the age of 70. “For middle income people, Social Security is going to be the majority of their income [in retirement],” says Vernon. “It will be anywhere from 60 to 80 percent of their total income. And Social Security is nearly a perfect retirement income generator: It lasts the rest of your life, it protects against inflation, it doesn't go down if the stock market crashes, it's paid automatically into your checking account, part of it isn't subject to income taxes. No other retirement income generator has all of those positive features, so maximizing Social Security is a key part of this strategy.”

The best option is to delay receiving Social Security benefits until the age of 70, Vernon says, or work part-time to cover living expenses until the age of 70. Otherwise, you can also use a portion of your retirement savings to substitute the Social Security benefits you’re delaying.

2. Create an “automatic retirement paycheck.” To supplement Social Security income, Vernon suggests investing any remaining savings in low-cost mutual funds that are common in IRAs and 401(k) plans, such as target date, balanced or stock index funds. You’ll want to generate consistent “paychecks” from your IRA savings and 401(k) that’ll last you the remaining years of your life. You can use the IRS required minimum distribution (RMD) to calculate how much of your retirement savings you’d receive each year.

“This is a strategy that people can use to decide if they've got enough money to retire,” Vernon told CNBC Make It. "But, also, a lot of people are uncertain as to when they'll retire and if they should work part-time for a while, so this strategy can help them think through those questions.:

According to Vernon, the “spend safely in retirement strategy” produces “more average total retirement income expected throughout retirement compared to most solutions [the team] analyzed and provides a lifetime income, no matter how long the participant lives.”

Read the full report here. And, if you think you’ve got your retirement plan all figured out, it’s time to start thinking about where to retire next. For over a quarter of a century, International Living has ranked, rated and named the best countries to retire in, and we’ve rounded up the best places to retire based on your dream vacay.


AnnaMarie Houlis is a multimedia journalist and an adventure aficionado with a keen cultural curiosity and an affinity for solo travel. She's an editor by day and a travel blogger at by night.

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